Dealing with trauma, emotional distress or overwhelming situations can be extremely difficult. When people are unable to process they can sometimes revert to self harm as a copying mechanism. Understanding why people self harm can help young people find better ways to manage their emotions.
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Self-harm is the act of deliberately inflicting pain or injury on oneself as a way to cope with emotional distress, trauma, or overwhelming situations.
Common methods of self-harm include cutting, burning, scratching, hitting, or intentionally preventing wounds from healing. Some individuals might also engage in more hidden forms of self-harm, such as abusing substances or engaging in risky behaviours.
Self-harm is dangerous because it can lead to severe physical injuries, infections, and permanent scars. It also signifies deep emotional pain and can worsen mental health conditions, creating a harmful cycle of pain and coping
People might self-harm for various reasons, including to express and manage overwhelming emotions, to feel a sense of control, to cope with trauma or abuse, to punish themselves due to feelings of guilt or shame, or to experience a physical sensation when feeling numb or disconnected.
The idea that people self-harm “for attention” is a common misconception. While some individuals may engage in self-harm as a way to signal distress or seek attention, it’s important to understand that this is often a cry for help or a form of communication when they feel unable to express their emotions verbally. It indicates that the person is struggling and needs support, not judgment.
Viewing self-harm as attention-seeking minimizes the underlying pain and emotional distress they are experiencing. Recognising this behaviour as a call for help allows us to respond with empathy and provide the care they truly need.
While not everyone who self-harms is suicidal, self-harm can increase the risk of suicide. It is often a sign of severe emotional distress, and individuals who self-harm may feel overwhelmed and unable to cope with their feelings.
Supporting someone who is self-harming involves being non-judgmental, listening to them, encouraging them to seek professional help, and offering emotional support. It’s important to guide them towards mental health resources and reassure them that there are healthier ways to cope with their pain.